Choose Your Inner Circle Wisely

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” – Oprah Winfrey

Over the years, I’ve heard many a high-achieving performer share that they wonder if certain people in their lives truly love them for who they are, or because they appear ‘successful’ to the world.

Because when you’re on a winning streak, when you’re shining at the top…people will be drawn to your light and the attention you get because of your personality and achievements.

The question is, when times get tough…and mark my words, they will get tough at some point…who will walk with you then?

True chosen family and friends love and support you if you end up in last place, or never even qualify, multiple times.

They are not jealous when good things happen to you. They are genuinely happy for you and celebrate your wins – great and small.

They don’t abandon or criticize you when you’re down and out. They know that no one is more disappointed after a tough loss than you, the athlete/performer.

They don’t blow smoke up your ass in some toxic positivity either, pretending that everything is sunshine and daisies when in fact, it feels more like a slog through sticky mud.

They are real, down-to-earth souls who are attuned to you. They can silently bear witness on those heavy days, lift you up with their loud cheers mid-competition, and bring comfort and laughter throughout life.

And you would do the same for them.

Through friendship, love, and care, you have the necessary strength, courage, and endurance to face the ups and downs of life, together.

Take a moment to reflect on your “concentric circle community.”

The very center is your sacred inner circle. These are your closest and most beloved friends and chosen family members.

And don’t you forget to put yourself in the very center of your inner circle! You must be your own closest and most beloved friend, first and foremost.

Who else is in your inner circle? What about these particular friendships places them in your inner circle?

Who is just outside your inner circle, in your 1st ring of closeness?

Who are in the 2nd, 3rd, 4th ring levels?

Who needs to move to another ring level?

Who/What exists outside of the rings?

Take a moment to reflect on your concentric circles, holding your inner circle people in heart and mind. You are loved!

Let them know how you feel about them today. It’s a great way to start the week. 🙂

All the best,

Laura

Note: This and every Athlete Illuminated post is for educational purposes only and not a replacement for mental health treatment. If you are in urgent need of mental health support, please call 9-8-8. If you are experiencing an emergency, please call 9-1-1 or go to your nearest emergency room. For ongoing mental health concerns, consider seeking professional support or therapy.